Cheaters - Get The 411

Is there any worse feeling than finding out or even thinking that your significant other is cheating or has cheated. After the tears, the emotional breakdown, and the feeling of wanting to rip their head off, you come back to earth and realize that you have to make a decision. Do you forgive them or do you walk away?

While the saying goes "forgive and forget," the two very rarely go hand in hand. When you've been betrayed and your trust stripped from you, you may say the words, "I forgive you," but in all actuality, you can never truly forget. Every late night out, unanswered phone call; every time they are not within your reach, by telephone or in clear site of you, your mind wanders.  Read more...

How does one forgive and are we really capable of overcoming this obstacle?

Statistics show that 1 in 2 people cheat on their partners; 57% of women cheat; 75% of married men cheat.
9 of 10 say it's easy to cheat on the internet; 1 in 3 have turned an online chat into a meeting that led to sex.
1 in 2 people who say they are happily married have also cheated.
9 of 10 women think they are being cheated on right now.

An article in Askmen.com asked the question, "Why to men cheat?"  Here are some reasons why:

They are not sexually attracted to their partner (have you let yourself go)
Sex may not be available when they're ready (are you always tired or not in the mood)
Sex has become boring (is it the same old routine)
Not enough sex (is there a lack of interest)
They feel like you are not attracted to them (do you lack communication)
There is no excitement in the relationship (do you do things together)

Cheating is not complicated. It offers instant satisfaction, physically and emotionally. Cheating is not always about sex. Often times, it's the communication, the attentiveness, and the emotional aspects that your partner is attracted to.

A relationship requires work. Just as a plant requires nurturing, attention, and care; a relationship works in the same way in order to grow. If left alone it will die.

Sometimes we really have to look at ourselves and ask the question, "What can I do to make things better?"
You have two choices - end the relationship or mend the relationship.

If you choose to forgive then you have to let it go; discuss why this has happened, and perhaps make some changes with yourself so that it doesn't happen again.

If you want out, that's easy and there's nothing else to discuss.
By K. Best