How Sick Is Domestic Violence?

Kind of a strange question you may ask, but is it really? We all know that people who are involved in domestic violence surely do have some serious issues. Some cases are mild compared to others and none are okay at all.

Years ago my husband's parents lived a couple of houses away from this couple in their early thirties. My father-in-law would occasionally pop over to their house to help out or take vegetables to them that he grew. I remember on this one occasion the woman was home and apparently she had a black eye and a few bruises. He voiced his concern as to if she was okay. She laughed it off and said that he should see her husband. She had ended up doing a number on him as he ended up with two black eyes I also think she had ended up breaking his nose. I guess the good thing was that she could hold her own, but this is really sick.


The sad part, as there always is one, they had small children. I know that at the time of this incident she had a child under one and I believe the other one was about four. What a horrible thing for children to witness. Even if by miraculous chance they didn't actually see this happening, they probably heard it. It has got to be very scary for children to grow up in this kind of environment.

Never forget this!
With loud sounds, children then seeing their parents with black eyes and bruises, no matter how little they are they can put two and two together. If you are in this kind of relationship and have children get out. Even if you can handle it, the children will be forever scarred with this impression on their minds.

Violent up bringing even if only a witness to it can affect how the children relate to all the people they encounter in life. It can cause behavior problems at school, with friends, with siblings and later with any love relationship they will ever have. For some children it could make them stronger and more determined to have a loving relationship, but for others it could become an ingrained example of future domestic violence that they will follow.

Is the couple above victims of such a similar childhood as what they were creating for their young children? Since she was so comfortable with her ability to beat her husband up and carried on life as this was okay and perfectly normal, my guess they surely had to have become accustomed to domestic violence as kids.

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