My Relationship Sucks! How Did it Get to This?

Having relationship problems? Is your relationship heading into rocky waters and you don't know what you did to make it get to this point? There are some things that can happen in a relationship that can bring it to a screaming halt. Although quite uncommon, some relationships may be able to survive these issues, but more often than not the relationship will abruptly end. Knowing what to look for in your relationship will have you able to avoid the things that will destroy your relationship.


Lack of trust and dishonesty are the 2 biggest killers in a relationship. Trusting your partner is paramount to your relationship survival. Not having complete trust and honesty in your relationship means that you will question everything that happens. Sometimes, little things will be blown out of proportion and you will look for reasons to argue with your partner. If you are in a loving and honest relationship this would not be the case. Behaving in a negative way compounds the problem and the negativity will breed like a cancer in your relationship.

Cheating and infidelity can also fall under the same banner as dishonesty and lack of trust. However, verbal dishonesty is one thing, whereas infidelity requires physical dishonesty. This can open up some raw and hateful emotions in both partners and is very difficult to overcome in a relationship. It isn't uncommon for the partner that has been cheated on to seek revenge and focus their anger on the person their partner cheated with, rather than at their partner. It is also not uncommon for the person that your partner cheated with to be completely unaware of your existence. If this is happening to you, addressing the matter with your partner is the only way that you will get answers, simply because you are in the relationship with your partner and not with the other person.

Avoiding your partner is another way to destroy your relationship. Living a totally separate life from that of your partner will only have you growing apart. Not wanting to spend time with them and having no desire to make plans for quality time will have your partner growing away from you. Perhaps you are no longer interested in them, or they are no longer able to hold your attention. Being honest with them about this may incite you to start to make the time to be together. Maybe you want something new out of the relationship, this is the time to ask for it before you grow too far apart for it to be remedied.

Whatever the case, ending a relationship takes less energy and effort than sticking it out and being miserable. Talking to your partner about how you are unsatisfied in your relationship may do one of two things: you may decide to separate and go your own ways, or you may decide to do something about your relationship to try and get it to work. Regardless of what the outcome is, it is far better to broach it with your partner sooner rather than later, especially if there are children involved.

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Piper S. McKenzie is a Relationship and Dating Mentor. She has been writing about making intimate human connections for over a decade. Learn more at her Winning Relationships website.